FUCKING FRIENDSHIP, HOW DOES IT WORK?

[cornhobble]

When you have friends that turn out to be somewhat sexist/homophobic/ist, what do you do?

There's this one guy I'm rather close with, but he's turned to be completely fail-y when it comes to women. Dude is totally sexist.

I've chosen to continue being friends with him in spite of it. I don't necessarily feel bad about this decision, because I don't think I should be obligated to be the perfect feminist who only surrounds herself with fellow perfect people (lol, that's not even possible).

But at the same time, it's like - can this friendship even last? I never let his sexism pass; if he says something misogynistic, I'll call him out on it. I can't help but think at some point he'll just get tired of arguing and cut off contact. I'm not going to stop being the Annoying Bitchy Feminist for anyone, but... I'd actually miss talking to him. :/

And knowing his ~tendencies... I judge him, ngl. That's probably not conductive to much of anything.

Sigh. idk, livejournal, I'm feeling a little melancholy and lonely today.

Comments

[fishpatrol]

As soon as I find out that someone is sexist/homophobic/etc, my opinion of them goes way down. I think it's good that you're calling him out on his sexism -- maybe he'll learn something.

I can't help but think at some point he'll just get tired of arguing and cut off contact. I'm not going to stop being the Annoying Bitchy Feminist for anyone, but... I'd actually miss talking to him. :/

If he values you as a friend, then I think he would change his behaviour towards you (i.e. stop making sexist comments when you're around) even if he doesn't end up changing his attitude/beliefs.

[cornhobble.livejournal.com]

Same here. RESPECT FOR THEM: GONE FOREVER. :|

Yeah, that's probably the best way to go. :)