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GUYS. GUYS. I am seriously freaking out right now. D:

So I've got a 15 year old sister. I'll call her A. A has a guy friend (I'll call him Tiny Tim. Inside joke.) who likes her, and he's not subtle about it. We used to think this was funny, and we'd all tease A about it, joking how they were in ~loooooooove.

BUT THEN. I was with A and her friends the other day (as the appointed chauffeur, yay) and I saw A and Tiny Tim hugging. Like full-body, grab-you-from-behind hugs.

WAT. WAT IS THIS SHIT. I don't like Tiny Tim. He's a super religious, homophobic, sexist little shit who would sleep with a girl and then call her a slut (not that he's ever slept with anyone, lol). A likes him, tho, because when he's not talking about anything of importance he seems like a sweet guy. (I guess. >:[ )

Now I'm thinking - what if she has sex with him? I'm not crazy about this idea (SHE'S JUST A BABY OMG /biased), but what bothers me more is -- she's never had a sex education. She doesn't have access to condoms, as as far as I know she wouldn't even know what to do with one if she did.

I talked with my mom about this, and she says she's been watching then closely. This isn't as implausible as it sounds, because my sister's homeschooled. But still, SHIT HAPPENS. If teenagers want to have sex they probably will.

In my mom's mind, sex education + access to contraceptives = encouraging teenage shenanigans. In my mind, HOLY SHIT WHAT IF SHE GETS PREGNANT. But I feel like giving my sister The Talk might be stepping out of bounds, a bit.

idk. What should I do, you guys? Should I let my mom do her thing? Or should I send my little sister links to sex education websites and try to talk to her? (I doubt she'd appreciate that.)

Date: 2011-04-09 05:18 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
The thing about little sisters - in general, they're forced to forgive you at some point, especially when they realize that you were right.

Given that the worst case scenario if you don't do anything is that she could get pregnant or get an STD and the worst case scenario if you do something is that she'll be pissed off at you for a while, I guess I'd go behind my mom's back and talk to her. Just talk. Ask her about the guy and try and gauge if there's really anything to worry about. If there is...then yeah, I'd just give her the talk and give her some kind of contraceptive. Mainly because you're right, teenagers will have sex when teenagers want to have sex, and teaching them about it or not teaching them about it isn't really going to change when and where they do, I don't think. And especially if this guy is really that big a jerk, you don't know what kind of lies he could tell her.

So, yeah. That's my best advice. I hope it's not too crazy.

Date: 2011-04-09 05:36 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
No, not crazy at all. When you compare the different worst case scenarios, the decisions becomes pretty clear. I'll try and talk to her, get a better feel for their relationship. Even if I shouldn't be worried, she should still know about contraception and such. (I had to educate myself, but I don't think she has the same curiosity.)

Thanks a lot for the advice, it was really helpful. :) I feel a little better now.

Date: 2011-04-10 05:24 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
OMG, yes! Talk to her. Let her know what can happen. Because teenagers, in addition to being immortal are also invulnerable and nothing unexpected ever happens, oh wait, NOT!

I do not doubt for one moment that more girls end up pregnant because they are IGNORANT, rather than 'these are condoms, this is the pill, woohoo! I can run amok and have lots of sex!'

Impress upon her, at the very least, the 'No Glove? No Love!' part.

Teenage momhood is not glamourous. Because YOU are responsible for this little person until he/she is 18. That means food, clothes, place to live, education, illnesses, doctors, etc.

P.S. I hope you take some time today to enjoy some lovely peanut butter.

Date: 2011-04-22 03:45 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
YOU ARE SO RIGHT. This is one of the reasons I'm never having kids. EVER.

I had the talk. OMFG AWKWAAAARD. But it turns out she's annoyed with Tiny Tim because he made some sexual comments about her to mutual friends (wow asshole alert) and she really does see him as a friend. She just likes cuddling. (I was all... PEE ESS: GUYS WHO HAVE CRUSHES ON YOU ARE BAD PLATONIC CUDDLERS, JS.)

PS I totally, totally did. It's like the best stress reliever. :D


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