Maybe before you open the door you should ask..."Hi, Random Guy on the Street. Are you going to think 'OH HOLY SHIT IS THAT A FAIR MAIDEN HOLDING THE DOOR FOR ME? I AM FAILING IN MY MANLY DUTIES, AND SHE MIGHT FAINT FROM THE EFFORT. OH NO, DON'T TAX YOUR ARM LIKE THAT, LET ME HELP.' if I hold the door for you or are you going to think "Hey Nice Person, thanks for holding the door for me?" Please be honest, your answer will determine my actions.